The Battle Hetween the Head and the Heart

We know that in relationships and when faced with problems men tend to think with the logical left side of the brain, and women, with

Reality Vs Theory

I came across this write up and it rang so true, but almost impossible. In theory, we sprout sayings and relationship "do's" and "don'ts"

After a Long Hiatus...

Wow, where to start from. A lot has happened since the last time I posted anything here. Since then I have survived a life threatening event , my house almost burned down, near misses of accidents, financial loss, met new and wonderful friends , lost weight and gained it back, gotten a new niece,

Forbidden Lines

*FORBIDDEN LINES*

 

I once swore to forever forgo the memories of my inglorious days, but devastation has drenched my heart with tears of pain and these tears have become enough provocation for me to renounce my outlandish oaths.

Today, I remember the stalker who plucked my tenderness, who replaced my scent with mess and

In matters of love, should you follow your head or your heart?

Use your head B, your heart will catch up eventually. The heart has no place in deciding the affairs of marriage. " These were the words of advice so wisely offered to me by my newly married male friend Bode when I presented to him a relationship dilemma. The problem with this seemingly Sage advice is that I think with my heart,  not my head, as do a lot of women in relationships.
We know that in relationships and when faced with problems men tend to think with the logical right side of the brain, and women, with the much more emotional right side of the brain.
I'm in a relationship fix right now. My head argues that he's matured enough age wise, he's got a good job, he's Nice -albeit a little boring and predictable - he's obviously ready to settle down and he's totally obsessed with me. The thing is, my heart says a big NO!  There no chemistry whatsoever ,there are no butterflies in my stomach, there's no thrill, he just doesn't... Do it for me. In essence, there is no tza tza tzu in the pit of my stomach.
So I'm really torn about what to do. Do I act logical like Bode advised and listen to my head,  or do I wait for that feeling in my heart that tells me when something feels wrong or right, that little tug in the pit of my stomach? Is there a middle ground, a meeting point for logic and emotion to agree in a relationship?
When it comes to a relationship, is it better to use your head or your heart?

Building Future Writers...

A couple of weeks ago, as an incentive to tun my pupils into little 'Chinua Achebes' and 'Chimamanda Adichies', I promised to upload some of the best writings to my blog, and read the comments to them in class. so please, be very effusive in your comments and commendations.


This one is from Fiyin Ogundipe, she's nine years old, and in grade five.

ABIKE (For Oluwayemi)...

YAY! My very first guest writer. This is a poem written by someone I consider immensely talented. I know you will enjoy this;



ABIKE (for Oluwayemi).

If I search the sanctum of Ajiun
If I clamp Ogun at all of his sight
If I bark at Orunmila and the giant sun god,
I will never find sweetness of your magnitude.
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If I dance around with Opele

REBRANDING...

Its been exactly a year since I posted anything here. I have been extremely busy, although thats an excuse that sounds feeble even to my ears. but suffice it to say, I AM BACK FOR GOOD!


I have decided to entertain guest writers, as a form o my repackaging and re-branding

MEMOIRS OF A FRUSTRATED GIRLFRIEND (fiction)

A while ago, a friend came to see me, and screamed after see the 700 or so novels in my room. We got talking about it, and she encouraged me to give writing a try, and since I have always harboured a secret longing to be the next Chimamanda Adichie, I decided to give it a try. Please review with love.



MEMOIRS OF A FRUSTRATED GIRLFRIEND

 

 ‘Look Itohan’ I started,

’ I am officially sick and tired of being a girlfriend o, I want to be wifed already for Pete’s sake! For the past four weeks now I’ve been attending weddings and getting some really annoying looks from those old women, some of them even have the temerity to come and ask me when they will eat my own rice, as If rice is their problem.’

Itohan bursts out laughing,

 ’abeg , kamsi don’t make me choke on this food biko. So what did you tell them?

‘What will I tell them again?  I told them to send their sons to me if they so desperately wish

Check Out The Viral Advert A Woman Did For Her Missing Husband. lol

This is what happens when you mess with the wrong woman. A woman who is probably tired of her man cheating on her devised a viral means of controlling him and also letting the public know that her "dog is missing".




Indeed hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. lol

Unbelievable! See What Makeup Did To A 3 Year Old Girl (Photos)

Wow! the power of make up. I think this is really cute.



The three-year-old girl living in Ohio, US, became an Internet celebrity after her 18-year-old aunt tweeted her pictures on Tuesday. The little girl asked her aunt to do make-up on her after seeing the

Not Making New Year Resolutions

My New Year resolutions are as follows:

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We Made It!

Welcome to 2016!  

This is to wish you a happy new year.  Praying that in 2016 you will exceed your own expectations and the good Lord will grant us all peace and prosperity. Amen!

Counting My Blessings THis Year...

When upon life billows you are tempest tossed,

When you are discouraged thinking all is gone

Count your many blessings see what name them one by one

And it will surprise you what The Lord has done

The first time I heard this song with the mind of an adult, even though I was still pretty young, I decided to follow the instructions.  I got out a pen and paper and proceeded to count my blessings.  I

The Baby Mama Syndrome

The Oxford English Dictionary defines a baby mama as “the mother of a man’s child, who is not his wife, or (in most cases) his current or exclusive partner. This syndrome which used to be a very foreign concept to Africans, has now gained grounds, especially in Nigeria, and has even become something to be proud of.  Everywhere you turn, you hear men boasting

My One Chance Experience 2 #teamsnoop#

I decided to skip my regular morning mass in favour of a movie today. Wrong, I know,but PHCN choose that time to restore power, and I was really fagged out from yesterday's galore...long story.

In this movie, the lead actress was a strong member of the #teamsnoop# camp. The actress just discovered she was dating the "king of dogs", and it triggered a memory in me.

A couple of years ago, I used to be strong advocate o

Lol...Cute Pictures of Children who fell asleep in very awkward positions.

I'm drifting off... This little boy lets his cuddly bunny keep the comfy seat as he dozes off in this awkward position

Proud mothers who breastfeed children as old as FIVE pose in striking picture series as they defend their decision not to wean their kids

Mothers who breastfeed their children for longer than a year want others to know that they're not doing it just to make a point - they're doing it to connect with their children.

Photographer Natalie McCain from Rockledge, Florida, set out to spotlight these moms with her new black-and-white series, which depicts her subjects breastfeeding their toddlers and even elementary school-aged children.

Titled 'We are not “still” nursing, we are just nursing', the series also includes stories and anecdotes from the proud parents, who discuss the backlash they've faced as well as the incredible bonding they experience while breastfeeding until their kids are aged two, three, and even five.

 

 

In it for the long haul: In a series called 'We are not “still” nursing, we are just nursing', photographer Natalie McCain spotlights mothers who continue to breastfeed after their child is a year old.

 

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Boy, 2, born with THREE penises due to incredibly rare condition has surgery to remove the extra appendages

An Indian boy born with three penises has undergone pioneering surgery to correct the incredibly rare abnormality.

The two-year-old suffers from diphallia, a condition where a man is born with two penises, doctors claim.

The boy, who remains unidentified also had another undeveloped penis, described as a 'soft, bony mass',

He was only able to pass urine through one of them.

In addition, after he was born doctors discovered he had no anus.

At the time, doctors in his home state performed a procedure known as a colostomy, in which they made an incision in his stomach to let his excrement pass out through a

Meet Harry, the little boy who's allergic to WATER

For most children, bath time is fun. But four-year-old Harry Floyd used to have a very different experience; soon after climbing into the water he became covered in an angry, itchy rash across his body.

He suffers from physical urticaria, essentially a skin allergy to a host of seemingly benign triggers including water and hot or cold weather.

Recent research, published in the Expert Review of Clinical Immunology, suggests around 100,000 Britons suffer from the condition, although experts say this may be an underestimate, with many more going undiagnosed.

The condition means patients develop a rash of small, incredibly itchy bumps (urticaria means hives) in response to a range of unusual and diverse triggers.

Many are allergic to weather, and develop hives in hot and cold temperatures, while others break out in response to exercise, or even pressure on their skin such as a bag