Friday, February 22, 2013

Dear God...

I feel like hell right now, I feel invincible, I feel terrible, I feel… sad, really sad and angry at God.  I wish I wasn’t in church right now so that I could cry.  I feel the tears shimmering on my lids. God why me?  Why? 

I can’t even put to words the exact way I feel...  Empty perhaps?  Yes empty.  I feel like I am just living aimlessly.  Why do I feel this way when I am in your presence?  I should be happy…I should feel loved...  I should feel wrapped in the comfort of your presence around me… but I don’t.

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Are You Commitment Phobic? 2

 You should always know when you make a commitment, that sooner or later you would meet someone more beautiful or handsome, richer and even more intelligent than your spouse, ask yourself if you can admire them for whatever they come with and still feel you have the best deal, if your answer is no, then you probably should not commit because you are not ready.  If your reason for commitment is based solely on your spouse’s physical attributes, then I am afraid to say, you’ve not quite gotten there yet.

Making a commitment should be a personal decision, it should not be taken for you by another person, it should not be influenced by what people think or believe it should not be rushed into and most importantly, it should not be taken out of desperation to get married, which is what happens to a lot of women nowadays.

Compatibility in a relationship should not be forgotten, do you share your spouse’s dreams and visions?  Are you able to co-exist harmoniously with your partner without wanting to strangle them in their sleep?  Are you willing to overlook or learn to live with their eccentricities without it becoming a major issue?

These are just a few questions to ponder on before you ask anyone that question, or say yes to it.  Tomorrow, we will look at a commitment quiz to help you know how ready you are for commitment.

Monday, February 4, 2013

Are you Commitment Phobic?

Deciding to commit to a relationship is a really huge step.  What if you commit to one person and then somewhere along the road you find someone who you think you love better?  What if you commit to one person too fast and loose the chance of ever meeting the right person?  What if you were to meet someone richer, more handsome or more beautiful than your partner?

I’ve heard people say “we got married too fast and I think I’ve met someone who I feel a connection with” and the question I usually ask is this; were you forced to get married?  We get to make our choices in life, and most times have to live with them for the rest of our lives.

Imagine if you were taken to a phone store and told to pick just one, one which you would use for the rest of your life.  Imagine it will be a very difficult choice for a lot of people.  You have to consider the physical beauty, its battery power and longevity, and whole other things.  Some people may have no interest whatsoever in the physical attributes of the phone, but are more interested in the intrinsic qualities of the phone.

Now for someone like me, I would probably think of better phones that will come up sometime in the nearest future and how I will not be able to return my old phone or trade it in for a better one and this will make my decision making all the more harder.  However, at some point we will have to make that decision knowing that after choosing one, you might turn around and find one more beautiful, but being able to look away from that with a smile means you are on your way to being able to make that commitment.  Blessed and happy are those who will choose one for its inmost qualities and capabilities rather than its outward beauty.

It’s almost the same as making a commitment in a relationship.  You are probably wondering if you won’t one day regret your decision, but here’s the thing, no matter how long it takes for you to make up your mind, you will eventually commit to one person.  What is most important is that you make the right decision and for the right reasons, not because of the person’s physical or financial strength, but because of his/her inner beauty and strength

To be continued…