Something happened at work today that got me all riled
up. It was a slow day at work and I was
gisting with a colleague who told me something he overheard the guys discussing
about me.
Before I start, let me tell you a
little about me. I live alone and
somehow I manage to make do with my little income. I am not dependent on my parents and have not
been in a while. Because of this, the guys were wondering how I am able to take
care of myself and look so good with my little income, so the general consensus
was…SUGAR DADDY!
Can you believe that? Now it’s not even the fact that they think I have
or had sugar daddy that pissed me off, it was the fact that they said no single
woman can ever make it alone without a boyfriend or a sugar daddy to augment
whatever she earns, it doesn’t matter if its millions, there has to be a man
somewhere giving here money. Really?
Now before I begin to rant, I know
a lot of women depend on men for survival, but it doesn’t mean it’s a general
rule. Have I needed the occasional help
from friends? Yes. Does that mean I can’t survive financially
without a man? HELL NO! I’ve realized that most guys are threatened
by a woman who seem to have it all and they like to put her down, or attribute
her success to themselves, but I’d like to think its men who are insecure and
lack confidence who think and act that way.
Women can and have been financially
independent for a long time now, and the fears and insecurities of men isn’t going
to change that. I really hope for the sake
of all that is good, that there aren’t a lot of men who still think this way.
What people dont understand is that, this days women or ladies are the major financiers of relationships. Men are just broke asses and stingy. A woman can do anything for the man she believes she loves without counting it but men will count every kobo and feel its an achievement
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with u jare and its really annoying when they do that.
DeleteGone are those days when women depend on men for everything. That doesnt mean that a little help from them every once in a while wont be appreciated.
ReplyDeleteGone are those days when women depend on men for everything. That doesnt mean that a little help from them every once in a while wont be appreciated.
ReplyDeleteIt's not our fault to think that way, you women also share that blame, just last week at the hospital, a colleague recieve a N1500 recharge card from her 'guy' , which she used to up her BIS. Well, when i teased her on how wealthy the guy was, her response was "if hé nor do am, who will". . No you see? Some of you women are to blame too. . .
ReplyDeletePeople always like to make ridiculous generalizations, sad but then, the best you can do is make sure u aren't part of such generalizations. Btw, interesting blog, but please change the white text on a black background. If u read up on web design, you will see that its very straining to the eyes, especially for large amounts of text, such as in a blog, and it can actually deter people from reading your blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the suggestion dear. I hope it's better now.
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