I’ve been
wanting to write
about this for a while because it’s just been stuck in my head, it
wasn’t until
a friend of mine said something about it that I decided to put pen to
paper.
How long
should people date
or be together before they sign the dotted lines? In the course of
discussion
with this friend of mine, I asked about her long time boyfriend, and she
said
they were taking a break, why? You might ask, she has been with him for
the
past eleven years, and he’s yet to show any sign of putting hearth to
home, yes
you heard me right,11 years, and I ask myself, why should anybody wait
that
long for anybody? If after five yrs of being together, your spouse has
not
decided what he/she wants out of the relationship, well, it’s goodbye I
guess.
I asked a
couple of people and
I found out that many women hold on in vain, with the hope that one day,
he’ll
pop the million dollar question. A couple
of women said that after being with their spouses through thick and
thin, they were given the silliest excuse in the books like, “my mother
thinks
you are too tall,” or “we are not
compatible” or “you are too fat”, the funniest I heard was “you are
half-cast”,
and we don’t marry half-cast in my family, the most common was “we don’t
marry
from a different tribe”.
Seriously?
After 5 or 6 yrs
together you just realized she was too slim, or too fat, or too dark, or
that
she couldn’t she couldn’t cook? Did you not know from the onset know
that your
family wouldn’t accept women from other tribes or religion? Or that it
was
forbidden to marry a half cast?
The guys I
spoke with mostly
said the same thing, if after 5-6 yrs he doesn’t know where the
relationship is
headed; 8years isn’t going to make any difference to him.
Some
people might say that
with love, the wait is always worth the while, but let’s assume I’m 28
years
old, and I meet a guy who after 6years still isn’t ready to settle down,
should
I continue to wait for him in the name of love?
So my
question today is this,
how long should one wait or date before he packs his bags and leaves?
How long
is too long?
A year at the most i think, cos even after 40 years of marriage, you'll continue to discover things about each other, so no need making excuses that "i dont know him/her well enough yet!".
ReplyDeletewell miss Pepeye,some people are of the opinion that one year is too short to know a person well enough,personally though,i think it should be a year and a half at most.
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