A lot of religions believe in waiting for marriage before
having sex, which isn’t a problem. The problem is forgetting to tell them to
discus it extensively before marriage.
I was listening to a radio show a couple of days ago, and
the topic was “sex in marriage”. A lot
of women
called in to lament and bemoan their sexual lives. Some said their husbands were sex maniacs,
some had no idea what to do when they got into bed, some complained their
husbands came too fast and left them feeling dry and frustrated, and others had
no sense of foreplay and a host of other complaints.
Some men also called in to complain that that wives were
either too frigid or had no sense of adventure beyond just lying in bed and
staring at the ceiling, probably making up a shopping list.
One particular woman’s plight struck me. She called in
crying and said she got married at 30 as a virgin, and she really looked forward
to consummating and enjoying her marriage, but to her utmost shock and dismay,
her husband had no interest in sex. Once
or twice a month was more than enough for him, and to worsen it, their rhythms
were totally different. He was so slow,
that, save for his heavy breathing and weight on her, she could forget that she
was having sex, After five minutes, all she came off with was a vast amount of
spit on her. She said the last time they
had sex; she was calculating soup money in her head. It was really funny, but I knew she wasn’t
finding it funny at all.
A lot of couples have different sexual needs, and unless you
take out time to discuss and explore them, always keeping an open mind to what
your partner needs, one person will be left short changed.
I firmly believe that sex should not be engage in it,
especially if your religion forbids it. But discussing it, is the only way to
avoid stories that touch the heart discussed in marriage; it’s something that
should be discussed during courtship. You
don’t have to
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