Sometime last year, I went to see my friend Joy, she was wearing
low cut. During our school days, she was
one of those girls who wore their hair like a badge of honour, she had one of
the longest and fullest hair ever! When I
asked why she had it cut, she said
her husband had done something or another, I can’t remember, and before he came
back from work, she had chopped off her mane of hair just to annoy him.
Well she succeeded, because he refused to eat at home for a
while, and he told her to find a way to get her hair back to its former glory
before he would even consider a reconciliation. However, considering the fact
that she was pregnant when I went to visit, I guess she found other ways of apologizing
to him, if you get my drift. Last week
my friend Iya happy cut her hair because she thought her husband wasn’t paying
enough attention to her, and, well, she got his attention, but…
I asked why she did it, and she gave almost the same answer
Joy gave, she needed to do something that will really hurt him, and my first
retort was “so you cut your hair? Couldn’t
you have thought of something else, like over salting the food, or, I don’t know,
something else, why your hair???
I was at my hair dresser’s today, and the first thing I noticed
was that she was wearing a low cut, which was rather surprising because she was
one of those women who never joked with their hair, even though she barely had
any. I asked with one of the few Yoruba word
I know “Iya Afeez, kilode, why you cut your hair?” and her answer shocked me…”my
husband vex me!”
Eh? I exclaimed,
perplexed. She said she had had a
serious headache some weeks back and told her husband about it, but he didn’t
respond. She told him about it again the
next day, and he still said nothing, so she cut her hair to annoy him… and she
succeeded. I’ll leave the tale of his
reaction for later.
While I was there, I was chatting with a male friend, and I told
him I was getting a haircut. He dint think it was funny at all, he had to call
to make sure I was joking.
It got me thinking, do husbands place that much value on
their wives hair? If it’s so important
to them, why do they not appreciate it more?
Moreover, for the wives, aren’t there other ways of getting a husband’s
attention other than mutilating your hair?
Are you not paying a costly price too?
Personally, I think its pyrrhic victory, not worth it at
all!
As a guy I can tell you that there is something about a ladies hair that adds to her beauty we admire - I can't explain it. Secondly, you know how expensive it is for ladies to maintain their hair... directly and indirectly, it is the pride of a man that her woman is doing good up there, not just in his eyes, but also in the eyes of the world. *Just saying*
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Ugo, so it will definitely hurt you if your wife cuts her hair right?
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